So what’s this “coital alignment technique” or CAT all about?
Well, have you ever thought sex could offer more? Like, maybe, an orgasm for the female partner during intercourse? Maybe even simultaneous orgasms?
Hmm… well… Until recently that was but a dream for most couples. I mean, there really aren’t many women who reach orgasm during intercourse without additional clitoral stimulation of some kind. (That would be a finger or vibrator, I guess.)
Truth is, most men are too busy thrusting away to think of stimulating their partner’s clitoris as they enjoy intercourse.
But few things beat simultaneous orgasm. Or, if you’re a man, feeling your partner come as you’re deep inside her. Exciting. Thrilling. Yes, good for the woman, too. Worth striving for.
And now – there’s the Coital Alignment Technique. The solution to all your orgasmic dreams. Let’s see how it works!
What Is The Coital Alignment Technique?
(Which you could subtitle as “The CAT and The Pussy Met In Bed.”)
Well, the whole point of the coital alignment technique is to make stimulation of the clitoris possible during sexual intercourse.
And one way to do this was described by sex researcher Edward Eichel in 1998. (He’s been working on this for over thirty years now, so I guess he must love what he does.)
Eichel suggested that the man’s pubic bone, that’s the area just above the base of his penis, could somehow apply pressure to his partner’s clitoris, or her clitoral area, during intercourse.
Now, as any man who’s brought a woman to orgasm will know, a regular rhythm is necessary to stimulate a woman clitorally to orgasm.
Clearly thrusting in and out of the vagina doesn’t produce regular rhythmic stimulation of the clitoris, at least not in most cases. I think it can do so if the clitoris is actually very close to the vaginal entrance, but generally speaking thrusting alone will not stimulate the clitoris.
So here’s the first thing about the coital alignment technique: it assumes a woman will only reach orgasm during intercourse if her clitoris stimulated.
And there are plenty of people who’d argue with that, because long-lasting intercourse that stimulates the G spot can bring a woman to orgasm very effectively.
However, the problem with that is that few men can sustain conventional intercourse for long enough to bring a woman to orgasm, and most men will ejaculate long before a woman is going to achieve her climax, going to come, through vaginal stimulation.
So we’re back to the idea that if you can stimulate the clitoris during intercourse, then you have a chance of giving a woman an orgasm during intercourse.
So far so good. But how are you going to get the necessary rhythmic pressure applied to the clitoris? As we’ve heard, and seen in bed, you can’t do it through thrusting. Or at least, you can’t do it efficiently and consistently through thrusting.
What Edward Eichel came up with was the coital alignment technique – essentially the idea that a couple can sort of “bounce” on each other during sex so there’s a kind of rhythmic pressure applied to the clitoris, or the general clitoral area, by the man’s pubic bone, basically. Now come on, don’t laugh! – did you ever “dry hump” a partner as a teenager? that worked well, didn’t it? got you off, I mean?
The best video I could find (made by me, as it happens…)
OK, maybe dry humping – let’s call it frottage as we’re all grown up now – isn’t the best analogy. After all, the coital technique is serious sex. Coitus is always serious, even when it’s fun.
Now if you’re thinking that this sounds a bit strange, just bear with me.
The coital alignment technique isn’t a simple straightforward sexual technique; it needs a little bit of practice, because it’s not really the way we normally make love.
What happens is that the man enters the woman in the normal missionary position, and then shifts his body upwards. She can put her feet on his legs to gain leverage, because she’s going to thrust as well.
And then the couple don’t engage in the usual in-and-out thrusting movements; instead, they use a more up-and-down motion.
Now, in all the descriptions are seen of the coital alignment technique, I haven’t really found one that makes it particularly clear how this works. In fact, I came to the conclusion this is because very few people understand how it works!
One regularly sees, for example, the oft-repeated instruction that the man enters his partner and then “shifts upwards” along his partner’s body so that his penis is bent downwards. In other words, he’s bending his penis backwards against its natural erection, and then the idea seems to be that base of the penis stimulates the clitoris. But this is complete rubbish. Many men find it impossible to bend their erection downwards far enough for the base of the penis (whatever that means) to come into contact with the clitoris, and in any event the orientation of the woman’s vagina isn’t suited to penetration at that angle.
I think it’s the man’s pubic bone, the whole area around the base of his penis that is going to stimulate his partner’s clitoris. If you look at it that way, the whole coital alignment technique makes much more sense.
Even so, what comes next is still odd, and very counter-intuitive. When men penetrate a woman they want to thrust, the urge to do so is deeply instinctive, and the woman might or might not join in with their own thrusting movements. But in the coital alignment technique, far from thrusting, the couple rock their hips, so that their hips are effectively going up and down.
Here’s an adaptation of what Mr Eichel says.
The gentle and yet coordinated rocking movement now begins. And the critical thing is the movement of the couple. The woman starts by rocking her hips upwards, and she basically moves her vagina upwards along the shaft of the man’s penis. So his erect penis is indeed bent downwards to some degree – at least, it will be if his normal angle of erection is upwards. (Definitely no in and out thrusting, you hear, men?)
As the woman pushes up towards the top of his shaft, he resists, but with less force than she exerts while pushing upwards – so the couple move together. Then, as she comes back down, he pushes down gently on her clitoral area, while she resists with less energy than he is using to push downwards.
Doing OK? I told you it might take a little effort to master this….
Eichel says that the end result is a series of small bumps, not the in and out of thrusting. The movement is well-timed, subtle, and gentle. and most of all it is rhythmic. Like all clitoral stimulation it builds slowly. And it takes practice.
Now, the coital alignment technique is more than any old sex position. It’s more of a coordinated movement, more vibration than friction, and it certainly gives a different feeling to sex.
The woman can delight in constant clitoral stimulation and vibration on the nerve-rich area around her urethral opening. And the man will certainly enjoy a kind of massaging action on his penis shaft. This, says Eichel, creates a “warm, melting feeling” during intercourse, which deepens the experience for both partners.
OK, a picture is worth a thousand words, so I’ve gone to YouTube and this is what I found……. errrrrrr – nothing. Amazing. No videos. I’m going to have to make one. LOL.
Couple pic attempting to show the difference between start and operational positions in the coital alignment technique.